7 Cultural Dos and Don’ts with French People
When you decide to learn a new language or visit a foreign country, showing interest in understanding some cultural aspects is as essential as your motivation to master the language. Not only will it save you from some awkward moments and common faux pas, but it will also be a mark of respect and education. That’s why today we are sharing five of the things you shouldn’t do with French people, but also some myths you shouldn’t take with you in your suitcase if you decide to travel to France!
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1. Don’t Assume Everyone Speaks English
Even though more and more French people can and do speak English, it’s always appreciated and considered polite to at least try to start the conversation in French. A simple Bonjour, vous parlez anglais ? could bring an unexpected smile on a busy Parisian face ;)! Somehow, starting straight in English can be seen as disrespectful.
2. Do Keep it Formal Till You’re Invited to Relax!
French culture places great importance on a certain level of formality, especially when meeting someone for the first time. Your first impression is crucial for a happy future with a French person. So please: Use le vouvoiement (vous) instead of tutoiement (tu) until you are clearly invited to drop the vous through a: Allez, on se dit tu ! or Tu peux me dire tu ! or else Mais ça va pas de me vouvoyez !! Dis-moi tu !. Same thing with calling someone by their first name: wait until you’re told to do so. However, handshakes with eye contact and polite greetings are always expected.
3. Dis bonjour à la dame ! / Say Hello to the Lady!
Every French kid grew up with this refrain: Dis bonjour au monsieur, dis merci à la dame, dis au revoir. Whether you’re entering a shop, stepping into an elevator, or greeting someone at work, saying Bonjour is non-negotiable. Not greeting people properly is seen as very rude in France. Same with merci (thank you) and au revoir (goodbye)!
4. Mon Dieu ! Don’t you rush a Frenchman having lunch!
In France, meals are generally not eaten in a rush; this is again part of the culture. Your lunch break is long enough to go to the restaurant and enjoy your meal without feeling stressed by the clock ticking. So, profitez du moment, et bon appétit ! Enjoy the moment and enjoy your meal!
5. Don’t Talk or Boldly Ask About Money.
French people are shy and discreet when talking about their personal finances, economic situation, or wages. Asking someone how much they earn or how much something they own costs can feel intrusive and uncomfortable. The best approach is to avoid those topics until you know you have a very close relationship with someone.
6. On se fait la bise ? – The Cheek Kiss : Do it !!
Earlier, we mentioned handshakes as a way of greeting each other, but we must NOT forget to mention the world-famous C’est 2 ou 4? referring to the “cheek kiss”, la bise. Depending on where you live, it may be 2, 3, or 4 kisses —a strange ritual that foreigners often get confused about! Also, let’s be honest: there is no clear rule about who I am allowed to kiss, is there? How many kisses? At our first meeting, can I faire la bise or is it vulgar? So well—trust your feelings, and you’ll do just fine. It’s all about your attitude!
7. Who did you vote for?
So wait a minute. It is too straightforward to ask someone directly how much they earn per month, but I can ask at dinner, while having a slice of tarte tatin, who you stand politically and who you vote for?
Exactement! Meal conversations in France can turn out to be pretty deep! So, not only can you find yourself in a heated talk on politics, but you could also do some argumentation on a current society matter, or let your poetic flow out and talk about philosophy with people you’re having dinner with for the first time! Debating is sexy in France, not rude—remember that. You’re welcome.
Conclusion
Ready for boarding? Now you’re prepared for a rich experience with some proper awareness of social codes, so live it to the best. By showing just a bit of curiosity and, of course, some respect, you’ll find most French people can be cool dudes 😉
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